• One of the best ways to work on your life (and business) is to work on your inner dialogue: the conversation you have with yourself every day while making decisions, interacting with others, getting stuck in traffic, brushing your teeth. These are the tens of…

  • I’ve been speaking publicly for almost 30 years. Hour-long sermons. Keynote presentations. Emceeing events. I even once got a chance to speak at a TEDx event in Europe where they brought in a speech coach to help us level up. I enjoy public speaking. I…

  • It’s one of those special nights talking about real life with great friends. It’s 11pm. My body needs sleep, but my soul is on fire. I’ll remember this convo for a long time. Over the last hour, my friends have recounted miracle after miracle. Breakthroughs.…

  • For as long as I can remember, I’ve been someone who avoided conflict at all costs. If there was a strong opinion, I would just say, “I see what you’re saying,” without really saying what I believed. If a conflict arose, I’d just backpedal and…

  • In life and in entrepreneurship, transitions carry a special spiritual weight, even though the transitory moments are short. It’s the awkward gap in between seasons, when God speaks to us, directs us, heals us, and grows us in special ways. It’s the rare blank page…

  • During a longer fast last year, two things became increasingly clear: So, we’ve started a new annual family tradition on Jan 1. 90 minutes of quiet, individual, guided reflection. (We also dress up, take fun pictures, and go out to a nice dinner to share…

  • The first time I recognized the power of silence was during my first real business negotiation. I was 22, working at a big corporation, negotiating with a 40-year-old executive on a contract we were about to sign. He presented his offer. I was tongue-tied. I…

  • Triggers are a blessing? Okay, I don’t quite believe that yet, but I’m getting there. I used to hate triggers. Except I didn’t really know what they were. Someone would say something relatively harmless. Or do something silly. The smallest little thing would set me off,…

  • aka, several reasons I almost didn’t start this writing project, and sometimes I’m still not sure. Each of these is a “shadow” voice that’s really trying to protect 5-year-old me, who’s saying: But actually, in a way… So, while this post is one big disclaimer,…

  • (audio recorded at CEF, July 2023) You’re not good enoughyou don’t belong hereYou’re uselessyou’re exactly everything you fear These four horsemen have endlessly haunted meAnd brought their hundreds of cousins to the partySo comfortable rooting, rotting within my heartThese are lies, I know, or is…